Finish What You Start

24 May

I am almost done!

With my college class that is. It is nice to finish something that I set out to do. I am already signed up for my next class too! Macroeconomics.

About a year ago I was so frustrated because I felt like I couldn’t set a goal for myself and follow through.

It makes me sad to think that I couldn’t make a promise to myself and keep it. Now it is different.

I started by setting little goals that I knew I could do no matter what. Then I expanded from there.

Now, I am in school, have a great workout routine, I’m getting things done around the house, investing in my marriage, and doing well at my job!

The great thing about spending time on goals and things important to you is that it builds self-confidence. It makes you feel like you have purpose.

Just wanted to encourage you today to set a goal and make a plan to pursue it!

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The Art of Being and Dreaming

22 May

Yesterday was a great day! 

Hubby and I had the day off together, and after a whole morning of homework for me, went to Barnes and Noble for fun.

We each grabbed a book and started reading.  It was really nice to just be together.  We didn’t have to talk… just be.  You know you have someone great when you don’t feel awkward just being.

What’s funny is that I feel closer to him doing something like reading than when we watch TV together.  Hmm…maybe because my brain is engaged?

Anyways.  After reading for a bit we moved on to dreaming of what is to come.  We like to do that a lot!

In about a year and a half we are going to move back home to Syracuse, NY, and hopefully buy our first house shortly thereafter.  We had some fun looking at houses, talking about what we like, and what we want our life to look like there.

I think dreaming is a good thing!

It defines what we value in life as a couple, and inspires hope for the future!

I think being is a good thing!

It means we are living in the present together, and enjoying each others company.

How do you be with the one you love?

What to you dream about together?

Tell me about it in the comments!

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Want to read more? Check out these posts:
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Supporting Your Spouses Dream’s and Goals

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Words of Love

21 May Me and my hubby on a hiking trip in the Olympic mountains.

As a military musician I attend a lot of ceremonies.  They usually are retirements after years of service, or when a Commanding Officer is turning the reigns over to someone else.

Now these ceremonies aren’t usually stimulating material, but the part I always tune into is when the speaker starts thanking their wife or husband for all their support.

Almost every time they tear up as they say words like: “Thank you for everything.  You have been my rock and the reason I can do what I do everyday.  I love you with all my heart.”

I look at the spouse, see the love between them and it is inspiring, but I wonder how often they say things like that.

It makes me think about how often I tell my husband how much he means to me.

Verbal affection is really important, but it is not my forte.  I have to be really intentional about telling my husband how much I love and appreciate him.

It is easy to say I love you.  It is harder to specifically tell someone what you love about them.

Sometimes telling my husband that: I think you’re handsome, I appreciate your strength, you are great at solving problems, and I love that you are so helpful around the house feels awkward to say.  Maybe that’s just me…

So it is something to work on, but it is worth it because it is all true.

What would you say to your significant other?  Are you good at verbal affection?

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Important, Not Urgent

17 May

Have you ever felt like you were really busy but weren’t getting done what you wanted?

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I have had several things on my list that I wanted to complete lately, but kept finding myself exhausted at the end of the day sitting on the couch.

Here’s what was on my list:
1. Weed whack the garden.
2. Plant seeds in the garden.
3. Set up the patio furniture.

You know what’s funny? It only took me 30 minutes to do each of these things when I got around to it!! And it left me thinking “why did I put this off so long”?

It’s interesting how things important to us get put off.

I am setting a goal to do what’s important to me before I do what seems urgent. This is a concept of Stephen Covey’s book, “Seven Habits of Highly Effective People”.

Hopefully, it will leave me feeling more satisfied and fulfilled with my days.

Wana try it with me?

What have you been putting off that means a lot to you and your future?

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What A Guy

16 May
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Hubby sporting his mustache for the “March Mustache Madness” competition that we do at work. Needless to say he won the competition, and the facial hair is now gone!

I just have to say…. I have a great guy!

Since I have started school and he has finished for a bit, he has been such a huge help around the house.

It is really nice to feel like I have a partner and teammate in life.

I hope you are as lucky!

The best thing is that I didn’t wine or nag to get his help. I just helped a lot when he was in school and he noticed and wanted to return the favor.

He also does a few things that I hate doing (making the bed, emptying the dishwasher) which is great.

So that’s why I had to tell everyone how great he is and how much I appreciate him!

Marriage is about being in a partnership. It’s about give and take based on needs and wants.

Love is service

Just something to think about…

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So it has been a while…

15 May

I haven’t written in months, but this blog has been on my mind the whole time.

Life got busy, and writing felt like a chore so I stopped.

Moving on…

My holidays were great and I started going back to school online to get my business degree.

I am several years away from graduating because I am still in the Navy working full time as a Musician, but it is progress.

My husband and I have been working out at a great gym again, Kitsap Crossfit, and are really enjoying the community of people and our growth.

As always, we are eating well and enjoying life with with our dog Trigger in the Northwest!

Today I just wanted to give an update on life and talk a bit about dreaming big and starting small.

As I said earlier, this blog has been on my mind for that last several months even though I wasn’t writing.

In my head several years from now I will have: a baby, my own house, my business degree, a Crossfit gym, and a large blog community and income from it.

The thing is, those are big dreams, and they are overwhelming to me.  But I don’t want to think about that anymore.  I want to think and focus on the small things that I can learn and enjoy in the process.

So instead of worrying about who is reading this blog and how many of you there are, I am going to learn how to write better, how to maneuver the world of blogs and…

How to be a better wife.

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Time to Relax and Reflect

23 Dec

So…I haven’t written in a while.

You probably noticed, or did just now since I mentioned it.

Work got busy, life happened, and I just took a break.

I wanted this blog to be fun and not another thing to feel guilty about if I don’t do it.  So when I started to feel stressed about not writing consistently, I threw in the towel for a bit to reevaluate.

After the new year I will likely get started back up.

Until then Merry Christmas,  Happy Holidays, and Happy New Year!

Love your loved ones and enjoy some fun and excitement!

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