Marriage is difficult and confusing.
Marriage is fun and exciting.
Marriage is something that you shouldn’t do alone.
When we are just starting out in marriage, or have been together for years, it can be difficult to know what to do, how to respond, and what to say sometimes. We usually need some help to find our way. Here are some places we can go to find answers.
Find a mentor.
A mentor is a trusted counselor and guide. It is pretty valuable when we begin marriage to have some women in our lives who have been there. Women who have marriages we admire and have knowledge they can teach us. Why make mistakes when you can just learn the right way?
I have been really fortunate to have a great sister that is 12 years older than me. Older in life, experience, and wisdom. She has been married over 10 years and has some great kids! I credit a lot of my success in marriage so far to her and her husband. Before we got married they sat my husband and I down and told us about Rules of Engagement and other important aspects of marriage. This allowed us to start off on the right foot with some working knowledge of how to be married.
Find a couple.
Sometimes, going to experts and getting some help is the best answer, so find a couple you trust who has been married for a long time! Do you have grandparents that seem happily married after 40 years? Ask them about their experience and what they think has been important in their success.
My husband and I did this last Christmas and their answers were great!
Find encouragement in your friendships.
Hopefully this will be my friends and I when we are older!
Women can be known to gossip. Sometimes this includes complaining to our friends about our husbands. Instead of doing that, lets talk to our friends about the great things about our men!
In my circle of friends, we try to talk about what we are doing to improve our marriages and the lessons we are learning. We each discover something new and deepen our relationships with eachother in the process.
Find some great books.
We don’t know what we don’t know, but the moment we realize we don’t know something it is our responsibility to go find out. This is where some great marriage books come in. It isn’t a sign that your marriage is in trouble when you pick up a marriage book. It is a sign that you care.
Who do you have in your life that you can go to for marriage help and advice?