I was at a military ceremony the other day, and the retiring Admiral quoted vs. 10 of Proverbs 31 to describe the virtues of his wife. This prompted me to re-read this chapter and get some relational inspiration.
Even if you aren’t religious, these beautiful words provide a beautiful picture of what to strive for as a partner. They show a strong, confident, capable woman with all the character qualities of someone patient and loving and true.
If you are married these are good qualities to shape your actions and character after. If you are not yet married, these are the qualities that truly speak to a man and make him want to align his life with yours. I have highlighted a few words that speak to me, enjoy:
Proverbs 31 Epilogue: The Wife of Noble Character
10 A wife of noble character who can find?
She is worth far more than rubies.
11 Her husband has full confidence in her
and lacks nothing of value.
12 She brings him good, not harm,
all the days of her life.
13 She selects wool and flax
and works with eager hands.
14 She is like the merchant ships,
bringing her food from afar.
15 She gets up while it is still night;
she provides food for her family
and portions for her female servants.
16 She considers a field and buys it;
out of her earnings she plants a vineyard.
17 She sets about her work vigorously;
her arms are strong for her tasks.
18 She sees that her trading is profitable,
and her lamp does not go out at night.
19 In her hand she holds the distaff
and grasps the spindle with her fingers.
20 She opens her arms to the poor
and extends her hands to the needy.
21 When it snows, she has no fear for her household;
for all of them are clothed in scarlet.
22 She makes coverings for her bed;
she is clothed in fine linen and purple.
23 Her husband is respected at the city gate,
where he takes his seat among the elders of the land.
24 She makes linen garments and sells them,
and supplies the merchants with sashes.
25 She is clothed with strength and dignity;
she can laugh at the days to come.
26 She speaks with wisdom,
and faithful instruction is on her tongue.
27 She watches over the affairs of her household
and does not eat the bread of idleness.
28 Her children arise and call her blessed;
her husband also, and he praises her:
29 “Many women do noble things,
but you surpass them all.”
30 Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting;
but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.
31 Honor her for all that her hands have done,
and let her works bring her praise at the city gate.
It is almost summer and that means the year is already halfway done.
If you are like me, you made a list of goals to start the year off. Making goals is a great first step to learning and growing, but it is always good to review them periodically and see how it is going.
So that’s what I am going to do today! I will fill you in on most of my goals for this year and find out what ones I am doing great at and which ones need more focus.
I followed Zig Ziglar‘s wheel of life plan for making my goals. It is the concept that there are 7 main areas of life that need to be balanced. If one is out of line, then everything starts to get shaky.
Here are the 7 areas and my goals:
- Physical: Lose 20lbs by the end of the year and get down to 135lbs. Accomplish this through portion control, CrossFit at least 3x a week, swimming/running once a week, Paleo+butter and cheese.
- Financial: Become debt free by May 2012. Finish 3 month emergency fund by the end of the year.
- Intellectual: Read one business/self-development book a month. Take 3 classes this year for college.
- Family: Go on more regular dates with my husband. Call my mom and sister at least once a week.
- Social: Hang out with a girlfriend every 2 weeks. Call a friend from home (Syracuse) once a week.
- Spiritual: Listen to a podcast once a week. Spend an hour every week contemplating life and goals.
- Career: Score well on my Navy rating exam (for promotion). Get a great evaluation at work.
So there they are. Now it’s time to see how it is going.
- Physical: Well, I haven’t lost any weight, but I haven’t gained any either. Nutrition is my downfall. I don’t drink alcohol or coffee so at least once a week I will have gluten free pasta or full on gluten filled pizza for fun. Portion control when I eat these things unfortunately goes out the window. The past couple weeks I have been feeling fed up with myself on this issue. I have now been a week of Paleo+butter and some dairy, and I am feeling good about keeping it up. On the upside, I am seeing great improvements in strength and metabolic capacity from my workout program which is encouraging!
- Financial: We’re debt free! As of May 15th we paid off our last school loan. We have begun saving for our three month emergency fun and I feels great.
- Intellectual: I am averaging one book every 2 months. A bit slower than I had wanted but still progress. I am also in my second college class and on track to take a third before the year is out.
My sis and I. It is really important to me to stay close when we live far away!
- Family: Dating my husband at least once every 2 weeks is a blast. Getting out of the household routine is really fun. I have been keeping in fairly good touch with my mom and sis as well. Some weeks are really busy, but we usually make up for that.
- Social: Calling friends from home is great, especially since we are moving back in a year and a half. However, I struggle with making time for girlfriends out here. Everyone is married and several have young baby’s so it is sometimes hard to work that out with schedules. I want to work on this area.
- Spiritual: No podcasts, but lots of time spent contemplating. I think this is an area I would like to spend more time in.
- Career: I am really happy with this area. I scored well on my test and am moving closer to promotion. I also got a good evaluation.
Overall, I am feeling fairly balanced. A bit more time in the spiritual and social areas would do me good though.
I like having direction and goals to move forward to, but I also try to be realistic and cut myself some slack. Goals should be inspiring, not a vehicle for guilt.
How are you doing on your goals? Have you accomplished any big goals so far? What do you want to change?
Don’t be fooled by the title! I am not giving up some meaningful dream, or exiting a relationship.
I am just throwing in the towel for my garden… this year anyway.
Some garden beginnings from last year.
Last year I gave it a go and it was fun and rewarding. This year I have added to my normal life responsibilities: schoolwork, blog writing, and helping out at Kitsap Crossfit . It’s just too much, and the garden falls short in terms of importance.
I have finally come to peace with it today. I will probably keep my strawberry plants, but every thing else will be ripped out and mowed down. It looks like a wild field anyway. And it will give my pup more romping room.
My Vizsla Trigger. Isn’t he the cutest?!
Sometimes it is ok to give up on something if you are gaining time spent on more important dreams and goals.
As much as I like the idea of growing my own food, I am happy to frequent my local farmers market and buy food from people who are passionate about what they do! I will be supporting my local economy and gaining time and mental energy to move forward towards my future…Business degree, Blogger, CrossFit gym owner and trainer.
Sounds like by giving up I am really gaining more!
Have you given up on something because you had more important things to do? Did you regret it or feel that it was the right choice? Tell me about it in the comments!
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I am almost done!
With my college class that is. It is nice to finish something that I set out to do. I am already signed up for my next class too! Macroeconomics.
About a year ago I was so frustrated because I felt like I couldn’t set a goal for myself and follow through.
It makes me sad to think that I couldn’t make a promise to myself and keep it. Now it is different.
I started by setting little goals that I knew I could do no matter what. Then I expanded from there.
Now, I am in school, have a great workout routine, I’m getting things done around the house, investing in my marriage, and doing well at my job!
The great thing about spending time on goals and things important to you is that it builds self-confidence. It makes you feel like you have purpose.
Just wanted to encourage you today to set a goal and make a plan to pursue it!
Have you ever felt like you were really busy but weren’t getting done what you wanted?
I have had several things on my list that I wanted to complete lately, but kept finding myself exhausted at the end of the day sitting on the couch.
Here’s what was on my list:
1. Weed whack the garden.
2. Plant seeds in the garden.
3. Set up the patio furniture.
You know what’s funny? It only took me 30 minutes to do each of these things when I got around to it!! And it left me thinking “why did I put this off so long”?
It’s interesting how things important to us get put off.
I am setting a goal to do what’s important to me before I do what seems urgent. This is a concept of Stephen Covey’s book, “Seven Habits of Highly Effective People”.
Hopefully, it will leave me feeling more satisfied and fulfilled with my days.
Wana try it with me?
What have you been putting off that means a lot to you and your future?